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  • #16
    i honestly do not know if he is being treated by a specialist i hope he is, i am actually quite ashamed of how little i know of the situation.

    i am not with him, he is about 25 miles away.

    i am afraid to see him like this, but i need to visit him, i feel it will help me with visualization. i am afraid of telling him, because he does not understand this sort of thing and his skepticism may block me out. this may all sound crazy, as it very well may be, since the thought came to me at a crazy time in my life, but i am not going to take it out of question just because it may be deemed as crazy, im going to meditate on it more, i see it as a way that i can help for now, though it is very exhausting and takes much of my concentration power.

    this is something within myself, and if it is crazy, i am not worried about it. it will hurt no one. i have nothing to lose. and my mind is too strong to be fooled by simple illusions of ego. (when i allow it to be)

    i see now why chi gung healers/martial artists, have to undergo such rigorous training.

    my brother is not the athletic type at all, but a couple months ago when he was feeling normal, we did some chi gung exercises and meditation and he really enjoyed it. i regret not taking advantage of this moment when i couldve showed him a new way of life, or atleast something that wouldve kept his energy strong.

    so confused...i have to meditate very deeply tonight.
    "Life is a run. In attack we run, in defense we run. When you can no longer run, time to die" - Shichiroji "Seven samurai"

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    • #17
      it reminds me of my father and his brother in a way. they were always kind of built on two different sides of the road. though i once hated my bro, too, guess i'm lucky in that respect with my him now. we're both interested in the arts, and so on..

      anyhow, we can only imagine what it is like for you, but i think he may really appreciate your presence.

      it's family...
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      • #18
        Twenty five miles is no great distance, especially in America. And leukemia is not something that you ignore or treat with qi gong. Also, health care in America generally does not "allow" people to be uncared for, as you'll find in Asia. You brother needs support, and he needs to be properly evaluated and medically taken care of.

        As I've said before, some leukemia's are curable if treated early and properly. Qi gong won't do it.
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        • #19
          im trying hard to be a better person and just keep to the old saying "if u dont have anything good to say shut the hell up" so i will disregard the long distance chi transmission stuff and just comment on the fact that your brother lives 25 miles away..

          dude i know gas is expensive but if anyone in my family was diagnosed with a fatal disease i would have to go and see that person and keep in contact regularly because its not your chi thats gonna help him the most its your support as a loved one

          atleast thats the way i see it, i mean isnt that what this is all about. you know doesnt everything stem from the mind anyway? i think mental and emotional support are the most important things you can do for your brother, if u want to do whatever with your meditation thats great but before you get to exhausted u should call him, or go see him and have dinner with him or go to a movie or do something.

          try and get him to become more active and eat right and do whatever he can take a multivitamin

          i dont really know anything about cancer or disease ive actually just found out that i have some kind of ****ing shitty disorder i have bad vascular blood flow in my legs apparently and its kind of pissing me off that i dont have insurance to see a doctor about it. all i want to do is be "normal" again

          anyway..lolo enough about me. mental support, emotional support i think thats important...chi well, thats important to...
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          • #20
            yeah, i know, i should get up and see him, its hard for me. but then i would be contradicting myself.

            im going to go tomorrow.

            i expect this kind of reaction. but thats alright, as long as you do not think lower of me, but if you do, that is your choice and i respect that too, i doesnt hurt me any.

            im going to continue full streak with my distance healing regimen, if it is something that you dont understand, i will leave it at that.

            just thought i would share it with you guys, its really something that i keep secret.
            "Life is a run. In attack we run, in defense we run. When you can no longer run, time to die" - Shichiroji "Seven samurai"

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            • #21
              there's a close blood bond between family members, and, therefore, i really doubt that this kind of practice can be benificial. but i wouldn't rely on it to save or cure him.

              my brother or myself would probably do the same thing -- to help, not take responsibility for what's occurring.

              support is what he needs and that shouldn't drain you. there's enough energy to be supportive and healthy at the same time.

              and shit happens that is difficult and challanging with family all the time! i don't assume anyone thinks any different of you. i mean everyone deals with things differently.

              i think the point in situations like these, though it may be painful, is to be as selfless as possible in order to help so that the individual feels comfortable and loved in this uncertain time.

              please let us know how it goes.
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              • #22
                you guys are right, im just desperate.

                it doesnt really fatigue me, its just hard to concentrate for a long time,lol.

                but im still going to give it a try, nothing to lose...(but my sanity,lol)

                but you guys are right, he does need actual support.

                thanks in turn for giving me the support of caring friends, i truly do appreciate it, may god bless you all for your kindness.

                i dont really have anyone that i can talk to sometimes, you guys are great friends.
                "Life is a run. In attack we run, in defense we run. When you can no longer run, time to die" - Shichiroji "Seven samurai"

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                • #23
                  MS, first off I do hope that your brother is doing well and getting the proper treatment he needs. I know how difficult a potentially fatal disease can affect a family having my uncle die of pulmonary hypertension about 2 years ago, and now my last living grandmother battling an extremely malignant tumor. It often feels like an uphill battle for many of my family members, but the most important thing I do is stay calm and ask often how she's doing from my mom or when I visit her.

                  In Buddhism, I was taught Love(ing-kindness) Meditation to oneself, loved ones, and even enemies. When I practiced it, I didn't really know if it ever benefitted anybody that I would hold in my mind but what it did do for me was to generate a sense of well-being. This helps tremendously for myself, and people will draw upon that and tend to be more relaxed. There are enough problems to deal with in terms of said-disease; and, therefore unnecessary to just lose one's composure.

                  With that said, I know it seems rough but just keep moving forward.

                  Oh, and go see your brother.
                  "For some reason I'm in a good mood today. I haven't left the house yet, though. "

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                  • #24
                    Fa, how did your uncle get pulmonary hypertension? Did they give you a reason?

                    And MS, if you need to talk privately about your brother's condition, ie, if you need help understanding the issues and don't want to discuss them publicly, feel free to contact me directly.

                    We're here for you.
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                    • #25
                      thank you, you guys are like big brothers to me
                      "Life is a run. In attack we run, in defense we run. When you can no longer run, time to die" - Shichiroji "Seven samurai"

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                      • #26
                        MS, I wish you the best, and your brother a speedy recovery. I've never had a brother (two sisters) but when I read your post, I thought of close friends I've had who have passed away for various reasons. In looking back, what means the most to me, is the time I had with them. To me, life is just a series of moments. We choose how those moments will be spent. Currently, the most special time for me, is eating dinner with my wife and children (ages 5,2,and 1), then reading to them before bed. Every moment is so precious. Again, all the best to you and your brother.

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                        • #27
                          thanks jt1
                          "Life is a run. In attack we run, in defense we run. When you can no longer run, time to die" - Shichiroji "Seven samurai"

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                          • #28
                            Originally posted by doc View Post
                            Fa, how did your uncle get pulmonary hypertension? Did they give you a reason?

                            And MS, if you need to talk privately about your brother's condition, ie, if you need help understanding the issues and don't want to discuss them publicly, feel free to contact me directly.

                            We're here for you.
                            They said that it was either hereditary (which may spell bad news for me) or because he was a recovering drug user.

                            Is there a way to find out early on if I or other family members had also inherited it.
                            "For some reason I'm in a good mood today. I haven't left the house yet, though. "

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                            • #29
                              Not that I know of.

                              Drug abuse can cause it, especially if there's inhaled substances. A lot of these cases are idiopathic, which means that "we don't know". It just happens. I'm not sure this is a hereditary disorder, but then again, a lot of diseases that we get do have a hereditary basis. I don't think this is one of them though. You can also get this with recurrent pulmonary emboli.

                              I wouldn't worry too much about it.
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                              • #30
                                this is off topic but the new batman movie is sick, the joker is crazy i liked heath ledger way better then jack nicholson, i had to watch this movie 2 and a half hours in the front row on my back basically so i could see the shit but it captivated me the whole time, its real good go see it everyone!
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