Got an interesting email from a female who went to this school for a while.
Doc,
Everything was going along fine here with training until most of the students and teachers left for the holiday and cold month period. I was then training under the shi-fu and I thought "this is great" one on one with the head guy. But then his wife started making sexual advances toward me and kept trying to grab my breasts even though I told her many times over not to and I did not like it. Even when I told her "ENOUGH"< she kept it up.. Then she kept asking me to borrow her husband and have sex with him and once she did this in front of him. He did not tell her not to say such thing but looked at me to see what I would say. Now, mind you, I do not have a problem with being asked to share, but if the answer is no it should be respected and left at that. Not continually pushed and asked. Then on the Chinese New Year, the shi-fu came to my room and tried to kiss me. That was the last straw and so I have decided to leave. Yesterday I told the Shi-fu exactly why I was leaving and all he could do was say he was sorry over and over. I told him that respect is very important. And that I am a woman, not a girl and his wife has no respect. I tried not to be emotional about it but could not help myself. I had wanted for 30 years to come here to train and this is not what I expected or was looking for.
That and I suppose the fact that the shi-fu's wife can go into mine or anyone else's room and take things she wants without asking. But saying thank you on the way out and then sometimes not even that. But a few of the boys got caught stealing and were beaten terribly and then they got put on 1 or 2 meals a day instead of 3. This I do not, nor do I want to, get used to. It makes no sense to me at all the she can get away with what the children are beaten for.
But I am still grateful for coming to China and being able to see somethings I have only dreamed of. It has given my much appreaciation for the warmth of my home and the love of the people I have in my life. I have been fortunate in many ways here as well. I met a wonderful couple that I will always cherish. They are at the school as well and have shown me the true meaning of the Chinese family that I knew existed.
I am grateful for your help and your web site. And maybe some day we will meet. I would like that....
Do write if you will, and give me your thoughts and advise.
Sincerely.
xxxxx
Doc,
Everything was going along fine here with training until most of the students and teachers left for the holiday and cold month period. I was then training under the shi-fu and I thought "this is great" one on one with the head guy. But then his wife started making sexual advances toward me and kept trying to grab my breasts even though I told her many times over not to and I did not like it. Even when I told her "ENOUGH"< she kept it up.. Then she kept asking me to borrow her husband and have sex with him and once she did this in front of him. He did not tell her not to say such thing but looked at me to see what I would say. Now, mind you, I do not have a problem with being asked to share, but if the answer is no it should be respected and left at that. Not continually pushed and asked. Then on the Chinese New Year, the shi-fu came to my room and tried to kiss me. That was the last straw and so I have decided to leave. Yesterday I told the Shi-fu exactly why I was leaving and all he could do was say he was sorry over and over. I told him that respect is very important. And that I am a woman, not a girl and his wife has no respect. I tried not to be emotional about it but could not help myself. I had wanted for 30 years to come here to train and this is not what I expected or was looking for.
That and I suppose the fact that the shi-fu's wife can go into mine or anyone else's room and take things she wants without asking. But saying thank you on the way out and then sometimes not even that. But a few of the boys got caught stealing and were beaten terribly and then they got put on 1 or 2 meals a day instead of 3. This I do not, nor do I want to, get used to. It makes no sense to me at all the she can get away with what the children are beaten for.
But I am still grateful for coming to China and being able to see somethings I have only dreamed of. It has given my much appreaciation for the warmth of my home and the love of the people I have in my life. I have been fortunate in many ways here as well. I met a wonderful couple that I will always cherish. They are at the school as well and have shown me the true meaning of the Chinese family that I knew existed.
I am grateful for your help and your web site. And maybe some day we will meet. I would like that....
Do write if you will, and give me your thoughts and advise.
Sincerely.
xxxxx
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